Bullying, Part 2 of 5


In this second article on a five-part series about bullying, you will learn what to do if your teen is being bullied. According to Bullying at School: What We Know and What We Can Do (1993), there are three different types of targets:

  • Passive Targets: These targets appear physically or emotionally weaker than the bullies. They may lack social skills and have few or no friends.
  • Proactive Targets: These targets behave in ways that draw negative attention from their peers. They may be aggressive toward people who are weaker than they are. They may also not be able to manage their anger after conflict or losing.
  • Bully-targets: Some bullies have experienced bullying themselves. They are weaker than the people who bully them but stronger than the people who they bully.


What Are Warning Signs Of Being Targeted By Bully?

When teens are bullied, they may not want to admit it to adults. Bullystatistics.org reports the following warning signs of being targeted by a bully:

  • Returning from school with unexplained injuries or damaged or lost possessions,
  • Complaining of feeling unwell before school or school activities.
  • Regularly skipping the same class.
  • Behaving in a way that is withdrawn or depressed.
  • Taking a weapon to school.


What Are The Risks Of Being Bullied?

Being the target of bullying is a serious issue. It should not be treated as a “normal” part of growing up. It can have serious long-term health consequences. Bullying may contribute to depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), or even suicide. The term bullycide is sometimes used to describe suicide that is caused by bullying.

How Can I Help My Teen?

If your teen is targeted by bullies, then the first step is to help to create a safe place for your teen. Each situation is different, so creating a safe place will require different things for different people. It may require the involvement of teachers, counselors, or even police. If your teen has been the target of bullies, then consider counseling. Help your teen to recognize that they do not “deserve” to be bullied.